Letters Of Recommendation

Colleges request letters of recommendation as part of the application package to understand what contributions a student may bring and to gain another perspective on the applicant. Below are essential tips for ensuring students secure strong letters of recommendation.
How to Choose a RecommenderFor students in public, charter, or private schools, the ideal recommenders are those who know them well and can provide specific examples of their character and achievements. Due to high turnover in some schools, students may have limited relationships with teachers, especially in public and charter schools. In these cases, consider mentors outside the classroom, such as counselors, club advisors, or volunteer coordinators. Letters on letterhead that identify the recommender’s affiliation add credibility to the letter.
Homeschool students, too, can find excellent recommenders in homeschool co-ops, community organizations, church groups, online classes, or extracurricular instructors like those for AP, CLEP, or dual-enrollment courses. For homeschoolers, a varied recommendation set demonstrates their commitment and adaptability across different environments.
When to Ask for Your LetterIn busy public and charter school settings, teachers and staff are often stretched thin. Students should ask for their letter at least three weeks before the college deadline to give recommenders adequate time. For schools with high turnover, starting early can be particularly beneficial, as students may need to reach out to mentors or past teachers.
Following up with a thank-you note shows gratitude and reinforces the student's professionalism, a quality colleges value.
What to Give Your RecommenderA “student brag sheet” or resume helps recommenders focus on the highlights of a student’s journey, particularly if the recommender is a teacher in a high-turnover school who may not know the student well. Including specific achievements, strengths, and skills allows the recommender to paint a fuller picture without the need for extensive familiarity. Avoid writing the recommendation for them; instead, provide enough information to make it easy for them to compose a meaningful, supportive letter.



Making Your Request Stand OutWhen reaching out to potential recommenders, it’s essential to show appreciation for their time and effort. A thoughtful email or in-person conversation where students express why they value the recommender's support can make the request feel more genuine. Emphasizing specific reasons why you chose them—whether it’s their mentorship in a club, encouragement in class, or guidance on a project—also gives the recommender insight into how they’ve impacted you, which can help them write a more compelling letter.
Following Up (Without Pressure)After requesting a letter, follow-up reminders are helpful, especially if your teacher or mentor is balancing multiple requests. A polite reminder one week before the deadline can ensure they haven't forgotten and gives them time to wrap up the letter without feeling rushed. But remember, recommenders are juggling commitments, so keep these reminders gentle. Express your understanding if they’re delayed and offer assistance if they need any additional information about you.
Double-Checking RequirementsSome colleges have specific requirements for letters of recommendation. Some want to hear only from core subject teachers, while others encourage recommendations from various perspectives, like coaches or employers. Always check each college’s guidelines to ensure you’re meeting their criteria. For instance, a student interested in an arts program may want a letter from a visual arts teacher or mentor who can speak to their creativity and discipline in that field.
Preparing a Thank-You GiftWhile a thank-you note is always appreciated, a small gesture like a handwritten card or a small gift (such as a coffee shop gift card) can show additional gratitude for their time. Teachers and mentors often take on recommendation letters without any expectation of reward, so this extra step can brighten their day and leave a lasting impression.
Handling Multiple RecommendationsIf multiple colleges require recommendations, students should clarify with recommenders if they’re comfortable writing a general letter that can be used across several applications. This flexibility can reduce stress for recommenders and is often acceptable for many colleges. Some colleges may even allow students to use a recommendation platform where the teacher uploads one letter, which students can then send to multiple schools.
Avoiding Last-Minute RushIn high-turnover schools or when working with online or community-based mentors, it’s wise to secure backup recommenders early on. That way, if one recommender becomes unavailable, students won’t find themselves scrambling for a replacement close to the deadline. Plan ahead to prevent unnecessary stress.


Cheryl Carter has guided numerous students through successful college applications, offering strategic, practical advice to give parents "the homeschool advantage" in college admissions.

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